We’re working on reverse engineering your success for 2020 in this episode. Let’s talk about the 3 factors that will make all the difference to your getting what you want in 2020. Below, I’ve included a printable for you to help you figure out your new goals!
In 2015, I decided it was time to get off of my ass and finally write my book. A couple of years prior, after having my daughter, I went through a bit of a depression. Not severe, like I didn’t have to get checked in. For the most part I had been in denial and just trying to act normal. Then there came a point where I knew I’d have to change something I was doing and be more proactive about my mental health. Cause fighting with my husband wasn’t working. Blaming other people didn’t help. Complaining and reading gossip columns didn’t relieve the ache anymore. I had to do something. And I stopped reading fiction and I started reading biographies and self-help books. I learned to meditate. I learned about self-care and mental health. I started reading psychology books. I started journaling daily. And eventually, I wasn’t just back to my old self. I had elevated. I was like Cindi 2.0. That was so exciting for me, and I knew that if other moms and women had been feeling the same, having an identity crisis, feeling plain old shitty, that they needed to know there was a way to connect with a higher version of themselves.
And so I wrote a book. I woke up every morning, no matter what, at 4:30 in the morning. It was the only time I could be alone with my thoughts, before my family got up and the world began demanding things of me. I carved out that space for myself. And in less than 2 months, I’d written over 50,000 words. I had a complete book. I sent it to an editor who took longer than I would have liked, but she sent it back and I made the corrections immediately. I published that book in April and in a couple of months, helped make it a #1 best seller in self-help on Amazon. I learned so much through that process, and if I were to do it today, I know what I would change. I wouldn’t have done it alone, the way I did. But I set a goal and I accomplished it. And for me, it was like, oh shit girl. You did it.
Now I’m sitting here like, what else can I do? What else can I accomplish? And you? What can you accomplish? Because I guarantee you, none of us is giving 100%. 2020 is coming seriously fast. In fact it makes me a little uncomfortable because obviously there are things I wanted to do this year, that I haven’t done. And you know that bothers me. But I have achieved a few things I’m happy about. I published my first fiction book.
Copywriting turned out to be really good for me, and I will talk to you some more about freelancing in later episodes. I finally started a podcast. Thanks for listening by the way. And I just published my second journal, Ashes to Ashes, and so far I’ve been having some really good feedback. It’s available on my shop – givegoodjuju.com. That will be in the show notes.
Most importantly, I started really healing my relationship with my husband, and learning how to truly manifest the things that I desire. I didn’t understand it before, and so while I believed that the Law of Attraction was real, I didn’t fully feel like we could use it. Because the truth is, just as there is a law of gravity, there are a lot of Universal laws at play that we don’t totally understand, and so it’s a little deeper than how it’s depicted by most gurus or what you may have seen in the secret. If you’re interested in learning about manifesting, I have some cool stuff coming up to help you with that, because if we can utilize the energy that creates life to further our goals, why wouldn’t we use that?
But back on topic. What are we creating for 2020. Here’s what I’ve learned through experiences. My first book was over 200 pages, and I wrote it in under 60 days. Not only that, but when I decided I was going to start freelancing, I was up and running and making money in 48 hours. When you’re focused, there’s no telling what you can accomplish. And so I want to share with you what I’ve learned about reaching your goals and being more productive. This is important because I want you to live a life with no regrets. I want you to have more freedom, be more fulfilled in your business or career, make more money, spend more time with your friends and family, have new experiences. And the way you get there are 3 factors that will determine how successful you are at creating the life you want. 1. Focus 2. Belief 3. Habits (process)
So in an effort to keep my solo episodes bitesized and digestible, I’m breaking this up into three episodes. And if you listen and follow my formula, 2020 will be the most productive, successful year you’ve ever had. The first key factor is focus. I think the first thing that holds us up in accomplishing what we want (other than fear) is focus. We’re multi passionate. We want to do 20 things. You can’t decide what you should be focusing on. And for a lot of us, it’s important to us that we have a sense of purpose. We want to make money. but we want to be aligned with what we do. We want to give something to the world. We want to leave a footprint. And so for a lot of us, when we’re starting something we tend to ask ourselves, “but is this my purpose?” “Am I supposed to be doing this?” And I think we can alleviate so much pressure from ourselves by eliminating the words “supposed to” from our reality.
Because I was supposed to be many things. I was supposed to be a producer, and a writer, and a director, and write fiction, and non-fiction, and feed homeless kids, and create a school in Africa like Oprah. “Supposed to” those words can be draining. And they can keep us stuck in old versions of ourselves that we’ve outgrown, or obsessed about things that we may be years away from achieving.
So instead of thinking about what we’re supposed to be doing and putting so much pressure on “what’s really my purpose?” let’s be open to creating our goals around who we are in the present. It’s not to say you’ll never do those other things. And you can be every woman, just not at the same time. So what do you need at this phase of your life? What do you want right now? What’s immediate for you? Is it financial security? Is it to leave your job in a year? Is it to spend more time with your family? Build your goals around who you are in the present. And for checks and balances, make sure these are goals that inspire you, feel aligned with who you are and what you like (but not what you’re supposed to do).
Then, you focus. Focus is the operative word in making 2020 a really productive year. If you want to be an author, you should be focused on writing books. Oh, but you want to write fiction and non-fiction and publish cookbooks. Oh and you’re good at making jewelry. My question to you is what do you most want and need right now in the present? I wrote that book so quickly because I was drilled in like laser.
I want to help you focus so you can crush your goals this year. Above this I’ve included a printable to help you reverse engineer your success. Enjoy!