“Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” – Howard Thurman
I know the struggle is real, so I’m not going to hit you with the same lines that writers and life coaches do, who pretend to have all the answers. "Quit your job. What are you waiting for?" They make it seem like it’s so easy to up and quit your job, or that making a life altering decision is really no big deal.
Going after your dreams is not always the easy path. Especially when you’re caught up in struggle and dark times.
Let me tell you, I’ve had some dark hours. I can’t even explain to you how many times I’ve found myself buried in my own burdens, fears, doubts and bleak circumstances that have often felt bigger than my determination.
There were times I almost believed that I would sink beneath the weight of my responsibilities, failures and decisions that I could not un-make.
Oh, and I can’t forget to mention. There’s this very necessary instinct we have called fear - that sometimes we allow to spiral ridiculously out of control. It smothers us and we start to believe that success isn’t meant for us, and that we won’t be loved or accepted, if we “pretend” to be great.
FEAR KEEPS ARTISTS FROM SELLING THEIR WORK; WRITERS FROM TELLING THEIR STORIES; GEEKS FROM BEING INNOVATORS; AND CREATIVE PEOPLE FROM BEING VULNERABLE ENOUGH TO CREATE.
It’s probably kept you from doing a thing or two, or twenty. I say this cause I can relate. I had a negative belief that being a writer meant being a starving artist. That belief held me back for so long, until…
I couldn't breath, and I found that I could no longer ignore it.
And while I won’t tell you that the journey of being an author and creative entrepreneur has been easy, a few days ago I saw my book hit #1. It took me 2 months to write, edit and publish my book, and nearly a year to learn how to sell it, so it has not been all roses. But becoming a published author has elevated my entire life. You see, when you put your purpose into motion, you discover that what you wants, wants you.
I've received emails and even phone calls from people telling me that my book came to them at precisely the right moment in their lives. And the truth is, I wrote the book for me, but we all want and feel the same things.
That human connection is everything to me. These are the breathtaking moments for me, the moments that fill me up, despite the fact that I've been a successful entrepreneur for 6 years.
Your breathtaking moments are in the things that matter to you, not in what you think matters to the world.
I know there’s a voice saying to you, “Who do you think you are? You’re not perfect. You’re not unique. You are not special. You don’t have the time or the resources to live your dream.”
You can get past that self-doubt, and I will tell you how.
You see, the struggle is partially real, and partially your imagination. The true obstacles to your dreams are within. If you learn to conquer your mindset than you can overcome anything.
So if your inner critic is a mean chick, putting a chokehold on your dreams, here are 5 commitments you must make to yourself, if you want beat her a**.
Why'd I choose commitments? Because people tend to agree with advice, and forget about it later. However, these commitments are a promise to yourself. If you can take one extra moment, and commit to these 5 things, I am positive that your life will immediately start to get better.
Here we go...
5 “DO IT SCARED” COMMITMENTS TO KICK YOUR INNER-CRITIC'S A**
1. Commit to letting go of your rude and mean inner critic. Make an effort to be aware of when you’re engaging in negative self-talk. Then, when you find yourself doing it, just stop. Don’t allow this chick to run rampant in your mind, because she will only create more negative beliefs.
2. Commit to experimentation. Your life was never meant to be perfect. Choose the passions that really matter to you, and commit to trying them for a period of time - without judging yourself or worrying about what everyone else will say. The most successful people have naysayers. Don't let that stop you.
3. Commit to being okay with rejection, not regrets. Don't make a rejection mean anything more than what it is. Something that was not right for you when you wanted it. Breathe and let the rejection be okay, because at some point, the right person at the right time will say yes. But you're not asking, not trying, not taking action, cannot be acceptable. We usually regret the most things we left undone, untried and unsaid.
4. Commit to self-acceptance. You have every right to desire a big, awe-inspiring life. No one comes here with the intention of being mediocre. Now having a big life comes with both failure and success, and you’ve got to learn to love it all.
5. Commit to getting comfortable with discomfort. No one said this would be easy. Ever. Life is tough when you're in the shadows, and tough when you're in the spotlight. Let it be tough doing what you're here to do. Be okay with stretching yourself and asking for what you want. If being exceptional were easy, everyone would be the exception.
These are the commitments I've made to myself that I live by every day. This is what allows me to be successful in living a life that feels good to me.